On this week’s episode of The Date Your Wife podcast, we’ve just returned from Dubai and Oman. We flew out there the day after we competed in a fitness competition together. We discussed the journey to get on stage and compete and the details of our trip.
One of the most significant topics we discussed around fitness is that changing patterns and daily habits can completely alter your life. We often won’t commit because we consider the end result too far away or unachievable. We usually say, “I don’t have time” or “I’m already maxed out on capacity,” so we underestimate our targets and goals. But what if I told you that by shifting a few patterns, your goals are not that far away? It starts with letting go of old stories.
We all have a set of rules and guidelines that we abide by. Often, we don’t even ask the simple question: what if? We comply with these rules without challenging them.
For example, after my third daughter in my late 30s, everyone told me not to expect much from my body, and if I didn’t get back in shape, it was OK. This immediately irritated me, and I decided not to settle into that story. After gaining 70 pounds with my third child, I lost the weight and went on to compete in my first bikini competition. The crazy thing was that before competing, I was overtraining and undereating, and I had a story that I was already doing everything possible.
But that’s the kicker—I was already doing the work but not getting the same results I have now. It was time to let go of those stories, educate myself, and hire coaches to help me break those stories.
Last year, while my husband and I were on vacation in Miami, after a few margaritas, I got him to commit to doing his first bodybuilding competition. I’m pretty sure I was mocking him about his surfing skills as a real workout and his diet regimen of 12 Cliff bars, a protein shake, a crappy dinner, and a couple of IPA beers at the end of the evening. It was hardly adequate or even giving him the result that he could have. He explained he didn’t care and was happy with where he was. So, after I got him buzzed enough, I got him to commit to doing a fitness competition, and all it would take was changing some of his current habits and patterns. I promised he could get a different result without Making his life any harder.
So, he signed a contract on a napkin to enter his first bodybuilding competition. I told him it would change him physically and break him mentally; if anything, it would probably make his life easier. He didn’t believe me but accepted the challenge.
So, it was official. He went on to do his first competition last October and his second one with me this year in April. It was an incredible journey and brought us closer together.
In this podcast, we also talk about the importance of investing in trips. I think couples have a hard time justifying the money for trips.
Even when we had zero money, we started to travel. Taking ourselves out of our current environment opened up deep conversations and connections. Our vacations have gotten more lavish, but start with where you’re at, take yourself out of your current environment, and invest in experiences together. The RIO on this will transcend into many other areas of your life.
In life, I believe your results are a level of commitment to yourself and your relationships. Sometimes, these commitments have to be redefined. If you could dream and create the impossible, ask yourself what your dream marriage, body, or life would look like?
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